Spotlight on domestic violence

Take five minutes to shed light on the serious issues around domestic violence.

Learn about domestic violence and be aware of the signs. PHOTO:

In this three-part series Blend hopes to shed light on the serious issues around domestic violence, so called ‘honour based violence’ and forced marriages with the focus of the problem in the UK. The statistics may be different in Norway but the acts remain the same.

We begin the journey with domestic violence. Domestic violence is more recently referred to as ‘gender based violence’ and is a widespread problem. You may already know someone who is a victim.


Don't let children be the unseen victims.

Domestic violence is physical, sexual, emotional and/or other abuse that occurs between current or former partner, for the purpose of gaining power and control.

The Government defines domestic violence as any incident of threatening behaviour, violence or abuse (psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional) between adults who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality. This includes issues of concern to black and minority ethnic (BME) communities such as so called ‘honour based violence’, female genital mutilation (FGM) and forced marriage.

The overwhelming majority of domestic violence is experienced by women and children and perpetrated by men. Of course, this is not to say that men aren’t victims too.


Below is a chart which in the domestic violence sector goes by the name of the ‘Duluth-wheel’ or the Power and Control wheel. It shows what kind of behaviours abusers have to keep control over their partners.

Be aware and do something if the signs are there before it is too late. PHOTO:



  • 3114 cases of domestic abuse were reported to Police in 2011 (Aftenposten 2012)
  • In one of 4 cases where the victim has reported the crime the  risk of being killed increases due to continued and severe abuse (Stovner politistasjon)
  • 4 out of 10 women have experienced threats or been victims of domestic violence after the age of 16. (


  • Research shows that 1 in 4 women are affected by domestic violence
  • Every minute one incident is reported to the police
  • 54% of rape cases are committed by women’s current or former partner
  • On average 2 women a week are killed by a male partner or former partner, meaning one-third of all homicide victims
  • Women are more likely than men to have experienced all types of intimate violence ( partner abuse, family abuse, sexual abuse, stalking)
  • The abuse is usually worse if the victim is pregnant


  • 1 in 4 women experience domestic violence in their lifetime ( Council of Europe, 2002)
  • Partner violence accounts for a high proportion of homicides of women internationally : Between 40%-70% of the female murder victims were killed by their partners/ former partners


Only the offender is responsiblle. PHOTO

Domestic violence is not a consequence of stress, substance use or a dysfunctional relationship, as it is a learned intentional behaviour.

Perpetrators often avoid taking any responsibility for their abuse by blaming the violence on someone or something else, often minimizing their behaviour. For example saying ‘it was just a slap’, or ‘it wasn’t that bad’.

The responsibility lies with the perpetrator alone and there is no excuse for domestic violence.


In relation to domestic violence people often comment on why the woman just won’t leave her partner if he is abusive. Simply leaving the relationship doesn’t guarantee that the abuse will stop. The most dangerous time for the women and her children is the period she is planning or making her exit.

It’s common for the perpetrator to threaten to harm or even kill their partners or children if she leaves.

Reasons why some women are not ready to leave:

  • Feeling ashamed thinking the abuse is her fault
  • Scared of the future
  • Worries about money/supporting herself and the children
  • Isolation from family or friends
  • Still caring for her abusive partner and hope they will change
  • Low self-esteem due to the violence
  • Not knowing where to go for help
  • Thinking it’s better to stay in the relationship for the children


Help. Yes, you can. PHOTO:

If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence please speak to the following people for help:

  • Police ( Emergency)
  • Local Women’s Aid centres
  • Refuges (Krise sentre)
  • Friends you trust
  • Family member who understand you
  • Teachers
  • Social Services( barnevernet)
  • Health visitor( helsesoster)
  • Midwife/ jordmor ( if pregnant)